"It's our job." - Manipulating men.

Allodial is correct - this has been going on through copulins and their affinity to semen getting through the prostate into the spine and quickly up into the cerebellum. This kicks the receptors into neutral for a few hours and is akin to deep hypnosis.

Quit judging it, if it disturbs you.

This is a social balance when you view society as social mind. The female is physically weak and should have that modicum of control over her man, to keep the social yin/yang stable.